They imagine there is more to the relationship than really exists and then they rationalize away the reasons why things didn't work out – again.

Soulful Living

Living soulfully is easy, yet full of effort; simple, yet complex. A favorite word of mine is "mindfulness."

To be mindful, you need to pay attention. Start with yourself. Be mindful of how you are sitting, where stress is located in your body. Feel the tension in your muscles. Relax your mind and focus inwardly. Hear your heart beat, feel the movement of your breath as you inhale and exhale. Next, move your concentration outward. Note the sounds and smells around you. Observe the colors and textures in your life. Many people find that making a special place where they can relax and reflect helps them to be "mindful."

Learning mind/body relaxation and concentration techniques such as meditation or self-hypnosis can help you in mindfulness.

When you interact with people, look beyond their physical presence. Look into their eyes. See the "essence" that is their authentic self. This is how you see their soul, their reality.

Attracting Your Soul Mate

In the book Twin Souls by Patricia Joudry and Maurie Pressman, the authors explain that the ultimate union is between twin souls, a myth which presents the idea that at the moment a soul comes into being, it is divided in two – a male and female part.

From that moment on, their purpose is to reunite with their other half. As the authors state, the twin soul reunion will only occur after there has been significant evolution – as spiritual and as human beings.

In a practical sense, that means that we – each of us as individuals – need to examine our own emotional development, our spiritual development, clarify our priorities, and live authentically with courage and conviction.

The reward of finding our twin is exhilarating! What we dwell on in our minds and in our hearts is what we attract into our lives.

When we are living in "flow," when we are the best that we can be, when we live true to ourselves, only then can we project the kind of positive energy that attracts like-minded, soulful people into our lives.

"You abandon yourself, then start looking for satisfaction. You feel that something's missing, so you are always searching, becoming more and more frantic as all the things you acquire or accomplish don't fill you. This whole pattern occurs because you have stopped being. If you just let yourself be there, there is nowhere to go, nothing to look for, because it's all there. It is not that some people are satisfied by being and others are not; no, we all feel satisfied when we are ourselves. It is a quality of our human nature. It is our natural endowment. It is the meaning of being a human being. The only thing we need to do is to let ourselves be."

--A. H. Almaas

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